Fantasy clearly marked, consensually engaged in, isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Oh, I agree, but the problem is that escapist fantasies aren't always marked as such and that other people might still be hurt by the escapist fantasies (because no oppressed group is homogenous). So I think dealing with criticism via "Don't Like, Don't Read" really isn't an option in those cases.

PS: Sorry for the late reply, being triggered sucks.