Snowflake Challenge #3: Airing of Grievances

[rodo]

snowflake_challenge: Challenge #3
In your own space, Scream Into the Void. Get it all out.

This is kind of hard for me, because I tend to prefer not to vent, but there is one thing that frustrates me about fandom-as-a-whole: the more time marches on, the less accessible it becomes, for me at least.

So, I’ve got sociophobia – actual, diagnosed sociophobia. It’s gotten a lot better. Ten years ago, I couldn’t leave the house or phone anyone, and I can do that without much of a problem nowadays. I’m never going to like it, but I can manage. Unfortunately, other aspects haven’t gotten better: I still can’t stand chats, or basically any form of fandom interaction that relies on timely replies. I just need time to prepare myself to be social online, and sometimes I’m going to be really late – if that isn’t okay, community-wise, I’m just not going to be there at all. Discord, Twitter, even platforms like Tumblr, all move so much faster, and that just makes them impossible for me. (Besides some other issues.)

I just wish things were different, you know?

Comments

[quailmail]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has trouble with chats! I tried joining a few Discord servers once, but even when things moved slowly I felt like I had to be logged in constantly so I didn't get left behind.

It's nice to be alone sometimes, and it's nice to know you can take your time and do things at your own pace. It's a shame that isn't the norm these days.

[rodo]

Modern social media and cell phones have trained us to be "on" all the time, and honestly, I don't think it's good for anybody, not just for me. My problems just tend to manifest a little earlier than others'. On the one hand, I'm glad chats work for some people, but on the other, I'm sad that they're increasingly the dominant form of doing fandom - although a lot depends on the circle, of course.

[quailmail]

Mm, I guess the ideal would be a selection so people can chose the communication methods that work for them. I'm glad there are options, but it definitely feels like it's weighted in a certain direction.