Snowflake Challenge #3: Airing of Grievances

[rodo]

snowflake_challenge: Challenge #3
In your own space, Scream Into the Void. Get it all out.

This is kind of hard for me, because I tend to prefer not to vent, but there is one thing that frustrates me about fandom-as-a-whole: the more time marches on, the less accessible it becomes, for me at least.

So, I’ve got sociophobia – actual, diagnosed sociophobia. It’s gotten a lot better. Ten years ago, I couldn’t leave the house or phone anyone, and I can do that without much of a problem nowadays. I’m never going to like it, but I can manage. Unfortunately, other aspects haven’t gotten better: I still can’t stand chats, or basically any form of fandom interaction that relies on timely replies. I just need time to prepare myself to be social online, and sometimes I’m going to be really late – if that isn’t okay, community-wise, I’m just not going to be there at all. Discord, Twitter, even platforms like Tumblr, all move so much faster, and that just makes them impossible for me. (Besides some other issues.)

I just wish things were different, you know?

Comments

[misbegotten]

I understand this. It's frustrating to be "late to the party" but you have to do what is best for you!

[dancing_serpent]

*wince* I can barely even keep up with Twitter, and I only have 38 people I follow. I backed out of Discord after two hours in a slow going channel. So, ugh, I can't even imagine how hard it must be for you!

If it's any consolation, there's no time limit on engaging with my journal or my comments. Take all the time you need, be it days/weeks/months/years.

[silveradept]

That is part of the reason I like Dreamwidth. There's not a cultural expectation to keep up with the immediacy of everything, or to respond to everything immediately. So I hope this can be a place that works for you.

[quailmail]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has trouble with chats! I tried joining a few Discord servers once, but even when things moved slowly I felt like I had to be logged in constantly so I didn't get left behind.

It's nice to be alone sometimes, and it's nice to know you can take your time and do things at your own pace. It's a shame that isn't the norm these days.